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‘Words can be sharper than a knife’ - Unknown 


I like to think that i’m very patient and rarely outspoken. Which I also believe are a few of my admirable traits ;). I never used to be like that and I would jump the gun at things that should have been handled with a little more thought. Plus the way my karma is set up, it comes straight back on me. Probably because it’s not in my character to be a dickhead lol. *Side note this blog made Alesha Dixon’s - Breathe Slow stick in my head all day because of the way she sings the word composure in it*. 

Anyway...

Lately the way I try to think now is a little deeper. I try to think about the reaction of what my haste could cause. 9 times out of 10 when I try to think quickly I end up saying things I regret. Now I know that if I think things I tend not to regret because I have taken myself outside the picture and looked at situations objectively rather than subjectively. 

People will rattle your feathers. Trust me. I believe I’ve developed this way of thinking because of my job. I can’t just react when people are shouting at me for things which I see being so trivial. Wait, don’t get me wrong I’ve called several peoples knobs in my head very loudly without thinking lol. 
Staying composed when people are uneducated is honestly the biggest win in difficult situations. Education is key and I’m not meaning this from an academic perspective but on a people perspective. People will only show you what they want you to see. So be careful when they come at you. 

I watched an interview with Van Jones and Jay -Z and honestly I could watch Mr Carters interviews all day long. The interview is maybe a year or two old but it’s everything!  Not only am I obsessed with his wife but i’m obsessed with how he thinks and how he is able to articulate himself around questions about his life, which we all know he is so private about. 
He just about gives you enough to understand he is human. Not only that but in the interview he spoke about being conversational with our children to educate them on people and their own minds. He mentioned mental health and being an advocate that children should have tools of therapy within schools which I completely agree with. Mental health is a language which not all people are able to understand so imagine children going through things which they are unable to really talk about. Imagine that. I honestly believe we need to encourage healthy minds as well as bodies as soon as children can speak. I think they are smarter and feel more than we realise. 

You are probably thinking. Where am I going with this but its really about being careful what we say and who we say it to because we only see what people want to show us. 
Mental health is real and needs to be spoken about. Don’t laugh or brush it off. It is real and doesn’t discriminate. It can happen to absolutely anyone and will effect their families. 

So next time u want to hit back at someone for saying something dumb. Realise that they may be going though something and they think you can see their hurt and they use their behaviour as a barrier of protection to whatever they are dealing with. 

Be kind...

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