Dedicated to my Nan, Mum and Aunties
‘Always sisters, always friends
Let's stay real close till the end
Forgiving each other, letting love cover
Always sisters, always friends’
Growing up in a family which was heaviliy female dominated, I couldnt help but be in awe of the strength of a woman. Especially the matriach of the family, my Nan. How can a woman raise to 6 children plus look after a Husband and several hundred grandkids, (ok im exaggerating, there was 11 of us as grandchildren) just never really complain. Imagine being left with 10 unruly kids every damn day. Yes I was the only angel. Sorry I’ve just got a headache at the thought, and this is no joke for those that know me, Its like 11 me’s. How? Yh ill let you nervously giggle now. How can you perfectly juggle all that life throws at you without a single breakdown. Ok she forgot our names on most occaisons and literally call everyones names out until she gets to your name and then may hesitate that shes even got your name right lol. But how? Superhuman. Thats what I will put it down to. Thankfully this trait was hereditary because each of her children and granchildren got it as well as a small dose of stubbornness. I mean my mum didn’t raise me and my brother alone. As mentioned in my previous blog it literally took a village to raise us all and without knowing, we raised each other. Perfect family? No. Is there really such a thing. But what we did have was love and strength. No matter what we all have each others backs. We are literally that meme, you know the one, your cousins are your first friends. Yh that one. We look at the relationship the aunties and uncle have and its beautiful. As I said perfection isnt always realistic and yes like every family, bickers occur but i dare you as an outsider to get involved. Lol. Please dont. For your safety don’t lol. Im literally laughing at the thought writing this.
So with this I treat my friends the same. Especially my “day ones”. As they say if uve known someone longer than 7 years they really do become extended family. Admittedly, I’m probably not the best friend, as I really do struggle with communication and I love my home and own space but trust me, if any of them need me im there, no doubt! Any time and any place!
As time goes on friends do disperse, some for the good, some for no reason other than growth and some for both types. For those in these categories I genuinely harbour no bad blood. Honestly.
So what have the women I so fondly look up to taught me? They’ve taught me how to be honest with everything as hard as it may be. This for me was my biggest lesson. Learning honesty with my friends and being able to share my truth with no fear of repercussions, just support and learnings. Especially on relationship advice. I’ve learnt to never base my experiences on my advice but as a moral compass in what I objectively feel they could do. Always trying to look at both sides. Because lets be honest theres always fog in the truth.
I think its important to have that in a community of women. Relationships that provide a safe place. A true sisterhood protected and bound by love and honesty.
Just like my cousins aka sisters I never had but got anyway.
For you all, I will always be there.